You know, for about a decade, everyone was pushed to share everything they did on social media. It was a mistake. It was a mistake on the scale of cigarettes and smoking inside and in airplanes and in hospitals and in schools. No one thought it was a stupid idea, and a lot of people pushed it as the only way to get jobs and show you’re a clever chimp that can internet so hard because interneting hard was the cool new thing.

Lower right is the hangover from that. Anyone I didn’t find or didn’t find me between 2008 and 2018 wasn’t ever worth connecting with. The people that did find me were nice to hear from once, and we haven’t talked ever again, despite being connected, for 10+ years.

My grandparents and their parents, etc. went their whole lives never seeing people again and not knowing what happened to them because they moved one time and they didn’t know their new address. Whole movies were about that. Elvis had a song about that. The last episode of the first season of The Real World ended with everyone moving out of the apartment, and once that landline and address no longer went to those people, it was 100% possible that those people would be gone from each others’ lives forever.

Y’all, we’re not supposed to collect and keep 27,000 casual contacts throughout our lives. It’s unnatural. Our brains are not built for it. We’re made to have a few dozen up to 100-ish close connections that mean something, including family you don’t pick.

Email some old friends you don’t text with daily. Send anyone you truly care about an email to say hi. If they respond, then great. If not, don’t worry about it. Enjoy high fidelity communications with those who mater to you.

Shit I am all of them.

I am on the right side of this picture.

Im checking three of the four quadrants. I work to much, I havea too many kids and I have dropped most of my social contacts intentionally. And im usually constantly angry i don’t have the discipline to train consistently to stay fit. Currently I’m also not healthy enough to work out, waiting for a doctors appointment to hopefully fix that shit.

Is there a 5th option for “life is already over”?

Bottom right for a few years now, but it really only applies if social media is the only way you can think of to get in contact.

I’m the bottom right except no insta, no FB, etc. and only an email address.

Here I am going strong in the bottom right!

The disappeared ones. I’m one of those.

I’ll tell you what we are up to. We are

I wish I had arranged my finances better so I could live the dream of being bottom right in a nice very functional house in the forest, with enough self-reliance and supplies to last for months and months without poking my head out of my shell.

The bottom 2 categories feel like a personal attack on me.

I’m happily none of the above.

Disappeared can have a lot of dif meanings behind it these days.

Looking forward to being on the bottom right.

At some when people get too busy to be concerned I’ll delete my snap and insta leaving nothing behind. I just don’t understand why people feel the need to share everything they’re doing constantly or how they get upset if you don’t have the energy to react to it all.

A distinct lack of “drugs/degeneracy” category