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    Fumbled the bag. Life doesn’t give you many options to sue the fuck outta someone and take em for all their worth

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      I don’t get it, either. It’s like being threatened to get shot and releasing the threat and shooting yourself.

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        That analogy only works if your nudes being out there hurts or at least bothers you. Maybe she doesn’t care or planned to do it herself someday?

        You take away all the power if you follow through with releasing them yourself.

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          Doing it differently could prevent him from doing this bullshit to someone else. Some people need to face consequences so their last few brain cells understand they’re ass holes.

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      In that situation you’re still admitting the threats have power over you; by releasing the photos yourself, you both out the person as fucking scum and demonstrate that their threat was completely impotent, delivering a one-two punch to the ego.

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        I’m sure that your future employer will care a lot about the difference while running the most progressive and sex positive background check ever.

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          Oh nooo some asshole put up a bunch of deepfakes of me, I can’t believe you found that, here let me email the site to warn them…

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            Exactly the same as if the guy released them so I guess it was never an effective threat to begin with?

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      Still doesn’t stop them being used against you. If they’re published by “choice” I think that’s easier on the soul, if still painful.

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    This is the way. Take your bodily autonomy back ladies. They can’t hurt you as much if you make your vulnerabilities into a weapon

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    How do you attack future girlfriends? I would love to know who my future girlfriends are going to be I need this technology.

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      You can see who he has been liking and viewing on social media. That would be my best guess.

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    That’s like going full kamikaze, wrecking your opponent and somehow surviving the act.

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    What a woman.

    Reminds me of the Paris woman who testified to her abuser. Was in tabloids. Called that monster out.

    The strength it takes is awe inspiring.

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    This is someone who understands strategy. Quick! Promote them to a relevant position in their preferred industry!

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          Good analysis of the “nothing ever happens” Team Apathy trend.

          It’s not that nothing ever happens, it’s that attention-spans are now a commodity and when you read so many headlines meant to capture that attention span like, “SCIENTISTS HORRIFIED BY STRUCTURES DISCOVERED UNDER MARS” or “EYEBALL PLANET FOUND IN SPACE” (both actual headlines I saw recently) and then it turns out to be just normal stories about science or the like, you start to feel like nothing is real, and if nothing is real then nothing really happens.

          If you turn off your media feed and just seek out news on the things you’re interested in without letting the algorithm drag you around by the ballsack, you will be smarter and appreciate the amazing, terrifying fantastic and fascinating things that happen every day.

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        No but adding unsubstantiated comments about how your ex wanted to post revenge porn about you probably is.

        Edit: you can stop the down voting, I didn’t pick up the part where she screenshotted his threats. Either way, be careful with that sort of vigilante justice as you might be right but still break the law.

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          You made a very strong claim that she committed a sex crime. You imply her accusations are wrong and malicious. You jumped to that conclusion and took that as fact. And you didn’t even bother to read what she did. You judged her without even caring about that.

          Not saying you are a bigot, but what you did was bigoted. You should reflect on your behavior, apologize and resolve not to do it again. Only then you could ask for the downvotes to stop lol.

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          We have a pedo rapist in the White House. The rule of law is meaningless until this is corrected.

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        To an audience that isn’t interested in seeing them, yeah. They require consent, otherwise it’s a sex crime not dissimilar to flashing. I can’t remember the specific term. Non-consensual something or other.

        Edit: I still can’t remember but the word “brandishing” keeps hopping to the forefront of my mind, and brandishing tits sounds hilarious

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          While violation of social media ToS is possible, I find it difficult to believe that a court would regard the sex crime angle of publishing one’s own photos online seriously. Otherwise anyone linking to their OF without asking for permission to send the link first would be a sex criminal.

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            if only laws had logic

            minors have been charged with creating pedo porn from their own photos

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                  It’s confusing cuz you lot are arguing about something that’s not happening.

                  “Oh what if she was a minor then it would be inappropriate” yeah it would be incredibly inappropriate if she was a minor, but since she isn’t, it isn’t.

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              To win an IIED claim, you need to prove the sender’s behavior was extreme and outrageous, they acted with intent to cause you severe emotional distress or with reckless disregard for that possibility, and that you suffered severe emotional distress as a result.

              Another legal ground is invasion of privacy, specifically a claim for “intrusion upon seclusion.” This recognizes that individuals have a right to be left alone in their private affairs. Your direct messages, email inbox, and text message threads are considered private spaces. When someone intentionally intrudes by sending offensive material, it can be viewed as a highly offensive invasion of your privacy.

              It would seem a very difficult argument to apply in this case.

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              That link is talking about sending images. I am saying that tagging is not sending images.

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              It varies by country, but in south Africa for example, you don’t have to prove emotional distress, the law is clear in stating that exposing someone to genitalia, anus or female breast without consent (provided it is deliberate) is an offense.

              So you’re right, but in some countries, you’re more right than others.

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                  I don’t write the law, but for the sake of answering, consent is implicit in this case. Sexual offences must be sexual in nature, and breastfeeding is not sexual. So any mother breastfeeding her child in public would be exempt from prosecution of such a sexual offence. Many traditional ceremonies are also conducted in traditional attire whereby the woman are topless. This is also not regarded as sexual and anyone attending such an event must implicitly consent here as well.

                  Our law makes many provisions for the reasonable man. So if you happen to stumble upon a nude beach (official status or otherwise), and be exposed to a female breasts, it would not be unlawful as people on this beach reasonably expected the people there to have consented. You could be charged with other offences such as public indecency if official nude beach status is not granted at that beach, but it would not be a sexual offence. Also, the prosecutors would likely be hesitant to waste the courts time on that, and drop the case. So the cops would likely just ask you to cover up if a complaint is received.

                  Our law is pretty good in that regards, it’s our police and investigative side that is over worked and under skilled, mixed with loads of socio economic issues, that result in overloaded courts and high crime rates that we have.

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                  I know you’re making a bad faith argument, but I will answer anyway.

                  Trans people are accepted in south Africa, and offered many legal protections, including official recognition status of their preferred gender (there are certain prerequisites required to change your gender, but I don’t know what those are, I just know people who have done so). Should someone undergo gender re-assignment, and have the gender changed on their ID, it would or would not be an offense based on what gender they have transitioned to at the time the incident had occurred.

                  South African law is pretty forward thinking in many aspects regarding discrimination, primarily because of how racial discrimination has massively featured in our history.

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      No, the lesson is not to be filth and blackmail your partner(s).

      I sincerely doubt it’s a crime to upload your own nudes to OnlyFans and then tell your abusive ex-partner’s family, “hey, this is a link to the nude pictures your child threatened to post online if I broke up with them”. My grandma has accidentally shared worse things with me than that

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      I read your link below and do not understand what you mean by sex crime for sharing your own nude images (with adults). The link mentions a law for your own nude images being shared without consent, but that and everything else just guides a path to sue in civil court.