We pretty much always need an outside force to get us to stop.

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    Buddhists call this samsara or samskara. Our habits (whether good or bad) are the most difficult thing to break and breaking these cycles is also the most important skill to acquire

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        The terms are used almost interchangeably in Hindi. And used to describe something similar in Buddhism. I wonder why there’s so much overlap

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          @Darcranium do you know Hindi ?? The fact that you say that the terms are used interchangeably exposes the level of your knowledge of the language. The two words comes from Sanskrit. And even though my mother tongue is not hindi, l’ve used these two words very commonly since my childhood. Samsara in my language means family, but the word originally means the world, which is actually a family like system. Samskara means culture. It could also mean your individual habits and traits.

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            Saṃsāra is a Sanskrit word that means “wandering” as well as “world,” wherein the term connotes “cyclic change” or, less formally, “running around in circles.” In the context of Indian religions and philosophies, saṃsāra is the concept of all beings experiencing an ongoing cycle of life, death, and rebirth.

            In Hindu Philosophy and some Indian religions, samskaras or sanskaras are mental impressions, recollections, or psychological imprints that colour one’s thoughts and actions, and form the basis for the development of karma theory. In Buddhism, the Sanskrit term saṃskāra is used to describe “mental formations,”

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    Sunk cost fallacy

    Being aware of it can help. Ask yourself. “Cut my losses or risk more with unlikely win?”.

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      Yeah, true. Or even worse, stopping a dog from eating something it shouldn’t?

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    I see this every day. I try to stop and just take in the moment. But I can’t. I can’t stop. I can’t take in the moment. And it was only for a moment, now it’s gone. And now that it’s gone, I can’t stop thinking about it. I try to stop. I can’t stop stopping. But I also can’t not stop stopping. It’s my struggle. It’s what I struggle with the most. Stopping.

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      You also started thinking about it, you started trying, and with some practice you’ll learn how to stop when you need to. It’s not about stopping, it’s about… a bunch of complex stuff because nothing in our brains has a simple straightforward explanation as much as we like to pretend it does.

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        As a kid my dad had a game called gnome, where you controlled a mech. You could spam the stop button for the robot lady voice to say stop stop stop stop stop stopping.

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      Mmm I would say that depression by nature is a suppressed ability to gain inertia. It makes it hard to get the dopamine response started to a point where you get the feedback loop.

      And also to an extreme it comes from a place of not being able to imagine stopping the life you live so it is easier to imagine a stop of everything.

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    Until you realise it only takes one decision and we have stopped doing everything we wanted to stop.