In general I agree but a few people are lucky enough to have jobs that are cool enough to be obsessed with. That doesn’t excuse them from being able to talk about other stuff with other people, but I think it’s fine for them to be that way. I work in some fairly advanced science facilities and some of the people I’ve met are working on stuff that’s crazy enough and difficult enough that you almost need to be a little obsessed to succeed at it.
But my job is awesome and I really enjoy it and I’d do it for free if I didn’t have to worry about money. I just want to share the fun fulfilling stuff I did with my friends :(
Luckily we’re all autistic enough to tell me off if they don’t want to hear about it.
this goes for literally everything. Someone might still experience it as obnoxious and intolerable. Me included
I am with you on generally trying to understand the reasons for a particular behavior. Does not always help with being annoyed by it though. Especially if they apply their world view to everyone else around them and start to judge you for enjoying work/life balance
I’m all for understanding, but my line is drawn when the understanding fails to lead to action. My oldest friend still chooses validation seeking over all else, despite knowing that it’s the crux of all his problems and knowing he has the support of everyone, he’s adamant that it’s not on him to change and it’s on his support network to accept this as who he is and accommodate it even at their detriment. 24 years, I can’t handle that. I’m not willing to undo changes I made for my mental health to accommodate a lifestyle he’s admitted to being toxic.
I am not sure I’ve ever met a labor organizer but I’ve definitely met vest guy who just wants to talk about his job and if I try and change the subject a bit they ask me about my job…
Bonus points if they start telling a story with names from their work as if I know them.
Obsessed with work is the most obnoxious type of person. It’s a validation seeking behavior that I find intolerable.
In general I agree but a few people are lucky enough to have jobs that are cool enough to be obsessed with. That doesn’t excuse them from being able to talk about other stuff with other people, but I think it’s fine for them to be that way. I work in some fairly advanced science facilities and some of the people I’ve met are working on stuff that’s crazy enough and difficult enough that you almost need to be a little obsessed to succeed at it.
But my job is awesome and I really enjoy it and I’d do it for free if I didn’t have to worry about money. I just want to share the fun fulfilling stuff I did with my friends :(
Luckily we’re all autistic enough to tell me off if they don’t want to hear about it.
We do the best we can with what we know at the time. We’re products of our parents and environments. You can’t blame somebody for that.
this goes for literally everything. Someone might still experience it as obnoxious and intolerable. Me included
I am with you on generally trying to understand the reasons for a particular behavior. Does not always help with being annoyed by it though. Especially if they apply their world view to everyone else around them and start to judge you for enjoying work/life balance
I’m all for understanding, but my line is drawn when the understanding fails to lead to action. My oldest friend still chooses validation seeking over all else, despite knowing that it’s the crux of all his problems and knowing he has the support of everyone, he’s adamant that it’s not on him to change and it’s on his support network to accept this as who he is and accommodate it even at their detriment. 24 years, I can’t handle that. I’m not willing to undo changes I made for my mental health to accommodate a lifestyle he’s admitted to being toxic.
Counterpoint, the best way to organize unions is to become obsessed with everything happening within your workplace
I am not sure I’ve ever met a labor organizer but I’ve definitely met vest guy who just wants to talk about his job and if I try and change the subject a bit they ask me about my job…
Bonus points if they start telling a story with names from their work as if I know them.