• Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
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      21 hours ago

      But if you’re worried about less money, less personal time, career progress harm, and less hobbying, you aren’t nearly ready to be a parent.

      You made it sound like that’d be some ultimate goal. To be ready to be a parent. Meh.

      I value my time too much to waste it on another being. I love my hobbies and wifey and that’s enough. Computers alone take many hours a day, why would i want to abandon all sparetime to shovel poop, wish piss, buy food, make food, stay up all night, etc etc. Yikes!

      And we swim in money, don’t work, and have more than we would ever spend(probably). Yet I’d say we’re too poor to have a kid. The world goes down the drain, why would i want my kids have to witness that? I’m an asshole, but no monster.

      Having kids is most of the time just incredibly selfish. To not be alone, to have a “reason to exit”, to be needed, to been taken care of when old, etc.

    • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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      1 day ago

      So many words, so much hate, you’re proving OP’s thesis.

      You’re right you weren’t ready to be a parent, you think you are the poor baby.

      At least the stepdad chose to walk into parenthood, I hope he gives the kid joy and love.