• TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world
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      10 hours ago

      To me its more of a, “I’m doing this act of kindness because its the kind of person I want to be”, and if you take advantage of that, its fine. I wasn’t doing it with the expectation that you were a good person. I was doing it because I want to believe that I’m a good person.

      • Midnight Wolf@lemmy.world
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        8 hours ago

        I used to be like that, to everyone. Then I got shit on by almost everyone. People always using you but disappearing when you need help is a common theme with a large population of humans.

        I guess I’m jaded or whatever. Tired of being the village bitch.

        • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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          6 hours ago

          Learning which people will take advantage and setting boundaries (or going no contact) with them doesn’t mean you have to turn your back on all kindness.

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            6 hours ago

            Not all, but I distrust everyone until given reason to the contrary. Those I trust, I’ll go far beyond what they need, even putting myself at risk, but it takes a while to build that trust.

            A decade and a half of being used, deceived, manipulated, mocked, insulted, on a daily basis takes a kind trusting person and turns them into someone who hates humanity to its core.