Learning which people will take advantage and setting boundaries (or going no contact) with them doesn’t mean you have to turn your back on all kindness.
Not all, but I distrust everyone until given reason to the contrary. Those I trust, I’ll go far beyond what they need, even putting myself at risk, but it takes a while to build that trust.
A decade and a half of being used, deceived, manipulated, mocked, insulted, on a daily basis takes a kind trusting person and turns them into someone who hates humanity to its core.
Learning which people will take advantage and setting boundaries (or going no contact) with them doesn’t mean you have to turn your back on all kindness.
Not all, but I distrust everyone until given reason to the contrary. Those I trust, I’ll go far beyond what they need, even putting myself at risk, but it takes a while to build that trust.
A decade and a half of being used, deceived, manipulated, mocked, insulted, on a daily basis takes a kind trusting person and turns them into someone who hates humanity to its core.