I do all the laundry, clean the kitchen and empty/fill the dishwasher. I’ve got a bit of a routine and it works. She cooks and does the bathrooms. Division of labour is the key. Took us a few years and many arguments to settle into our lanes and now it’s fine.
We both do everything. I just do extra unfucking the dishwasher, I swear when she loads it, it’s as if someone broke into our home and just put shit wherever. Other than that, allllll goooooood.
the battle lines were drawn with soap
Today, my partner, who took a week off work to play video games, asked me if I was going to do the grocery shopping.
(╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻
Wow. I’m sure plenty of folk here are high-fiving this guy for what they strangely perceive as just a dude living his best life, but personally I think that’s selfish AF.
If you said no, do you think they would have done the groceries?
Have they done the same amount of chores at home during their vacation, than they would do when they are working? I dont think one person being on the vacation should mean they need to do every chore at home.
If they have done less than normally then i fully understand the frustration, but if they have done their part, or more than that i think its selfish to think that they should be doing everything.
Hey, they took that week off to play video games, not to go grocery shopping.
My blood boils for you
So, did you?
Yes, I had to run an errand anyway, but I was still annoyed by the question because he didn’t know that.
Solution, get you a girl that’s messier than you. My house is a shit hole, but we are still in love.
That worked fine until kids, now it’s like trying to manage a barn
Que sera! My house is a disaster, and we pick it up once a week only to have it disasterize itself again in a couple days anyway. And we harp on the kids, but in the same way my folks harped on me, so obviously it’s just in my genes and so fuck it.
My house is also spotless if we have people by, but during the week, things just pile up, and we just keep our heads above water.
I haven’t gone that far yet, I always imagined a cordoned-off area of safety. I’m just now realising how stupid I was. I hope you all make it. 🫶
There aren’t many dragons around here. We’re too quiet to attract the attention of bad guys. However, I both do laundry and load the dishwasher. I’m also the cook. Been doing this since well before I retired. One of my sociology students actually told me it was “gay.”
I enjoy the cleaning. It gives me purpose and makes me feel useful.
You could ask far, far worse of me.
sexism intensifies
Fuck washing dishes. That is why we invented dishwashers
Loading the dishwasher is its own battle.
At least when you kill bad guys and dragons, they stay dead. The trouble with folding dishes and washing clothes is that it keeps needing to be done.
That’s not true. I put dirty dishes in the sink and next day, they are clean in the closet.
One of these days I’m going to finally win at cooking so that I don’t need to do it ever again, which will also cover dishes. Then it’s time to really grind laundry until I do the same there. Don’t give up!
My story’s infinite. Like the laundry, it’s infinite, it doesn’t rest.
Welcome to being human, adulthood and cleaning up after yourself.
I refuse.
Ok incel
What a comeback, you’re such a good boy! Look at you, well trained and shit.
Better than a misogynist.
Not the insult you think it is.
Better than a misogynist
So you’re well trained and delusional, got it.
Good luck, hopefully being well trained pays off.
And even novice necromancers can only raise a body once according to the rules I’ve made up just now
And more expirence necromancers can raise bodies more times, but eventually they’ll get discouraged
‘diminishing returns’ lol
Sisyphus, that bastard with his tasks!
And you cant defeat that boss, no no, that boss is well beyond epic tier and you have to game the system to defeat him.
Which… women pick up. Because it happens more than enough.
this is probably what meat loaf meant when he said he won’t do that
Yeah. You need to listen to the lyrics a few get it.
Phenomenal
Mmm love it when the straights air out their middle school level problems on social media
Love it that lemmy is the most toxic place on the internet
While I wouldn’t call it a straight or middle school thing, I would consider it highly toxic to post your relationship issues online instead of discussing them with your spouse and fixing/ending the relationship.
I hear you, but other than the occasional odd-ball bandying around terms like “the straights”, there’s definitely worse places.
Oh I think Reddit wins that category
It’s kinda nice if you consider the electrical box or the unmowed lawn as a dragon.
We just split responsibilities by our ability and our schedule, and communicate to get it done. Somedays I have more stamina and headspace to do certain things and vice versa… sometimes we give up until tomorrow if it isn’t urgent. It’ll get done one way or another, and then we can goof off a bit together.
Those aren’t regularly serviced like eating several times a day and wiping ass though
Folding laundry is basically like fighting a dragon. These damn fitted sheets, man.
But I gotta do what I gotta do. These dragons aren’t gonna fight themselves.
Do adults really not know how to find fitted sheets? You fold it basically like a regular sheet, but tuck the corners inside each other.
I watched a video once and it was like 17 steps to do it so I couldn’t actually follow it. I did get the put the corners inside each other part though, and if you do that it gets you at least somewhat folded enough to stack with the rest of them.
I prefer the “fold it haphazardly, stuff it in the drawer, and I don’t care if it’s wrinkled when it goes on the bed next time” method, myself.
fitted sheets you say ? this is why i have a gf /s
Oh… Finally I understand the meaning of the english “fitted sheet”. Thank you stranger!
Whenever I tuck the corners into each other I end up with a lumpy irregular polygon which can’t be folded neatly like flat sheets
If you pull up the fitted part, you can establish parallel sides so you can form it into a rectangle that can be folded neatly
“Pull up” like three dimensionally? I do the best I can to square the blob up but always end up with too much fabric on the fitted corner to get a clean neat fold.
I’m the designated one who “knows how to fold fitted sheets” in our household btw 🤣
Yes, three dimensionally. Pull it up, and make a fold from the sewn point of the fitted corner parallel to one folded edge, and then the other edge likewise parallel to the remaining side. Now that you have a nice rectangle, lay the bunched portion down as flat as you can, and continue folding. Ta-dah.
Or you can do the parachute fold. And then fold it regular after it’s a tube
I roll mine like a little sausage. They don’t wrinkle and it’s fast. Also I suck at folding.
I’ve learned how; can’t speak for everyone though. But they’re the ones that take the longest time due to the intricacy.
I’m also very meticulous about folding laundry, so everything fits nice and tidy in the linen closet.
I would strongly prefer if you specifically never interacted with any of my posts.
You can block them so you don’t have to see it.
If what they’re doing is egregious, against community or instance rules, stalking, harassing, etc you can report them which notifies the mods of the community the post or comment is in, the admins of the instance of the community the post or comment is in, and the admins of the user’s instance.
Edit: Found the context- https://lemmy.world/comment/23272922
If you feel that he implied you were a pedophile, and he disagrees, then fucking report it to mods/admins and let them sort it. I’m not seeing anything but bog standard responses to some of your posts that you respond to with your little copy pasted message. I could understand if they kept making references to it, but I don’t see where it’s been brought up where you didn’t.
Just report and block and move on with your life.
That’s not the full context. That’s just their version.
Blocking still allows him to see and comment on my posts, I just wont know. Thats not a solution I’m looking for. There isn’t an action a mod could take that I’d be happy with. He doesn’t deserve a ban or anything. He can say what he wants I’m fine with that. To be completely clear he never said directly “you are a pedophile” I just said I wasn’t and he said he doesn’t believe me because I troll in shitpost and meme. He thinks that because I troll and don’t act seriously in non serious communities I’m “disgusting” and “childish”. Along with plenty of other negative adjectives. Then tries to lecture me for my horrible evil behavior that hurts everyone on Lemmy. That’s fine and completely within his rights to feel and say. These are the ramifications of my actions, which is okay. Its the pedo shit that really actually bothers me. So, I’m just gonna keep doing this every time he comments on my posts, which seems to be like 9/10 posts. Sorry if it’s a recurring comment you have to scroll by but this is how I’m dealing with this one. Appreciate ya for trying to help but I’m just mad and petty rn. I would leave lemmy before choosing to block someone like that, with the way blocks work at least. By the way the trolling he’s disgusted by and hurts everyone is essentially, someone saying “this meme is sexist” and me responding “pretty sure you’re the sexist”.
For the record: I do not believe you’re a pedophile.
I do appreciate that
Glad to straighten that out given your history.
You don’t just “act not seriously”, you are actively being a prick. You called me sexist for calling out your sexist meme, and your said with no basis that you think I don’t want to see women in memes.
Then you were a dick to everyone talking to you.
You aren’t just “being silly” like you claimed.
Let’s get the full story from both sides. You’re no saint.
Sounds like I told the full story then lmao. I even included the part your referencing. You genuinely believe that me saying essentially “no you” to criticism in a meme post isn’t just being silly in a place based on being silly? People said a thing and I’d say “thats not true” or “classic sexist” dumb shit like that. This is the disgusting hurtful evil trolling behavior that you’re captain America shield must defend everyone from. You keep clutching those pearls so hard your necklace is gonna break brother.
Have you considered going out, breathing some fresh air, maybe just walk, or go to a café, or a bar…?
That should help put things back into perspective.
Nah, never been outside
No, that wasn’t the only thing. You were being a dick towards everyone in those comments.
You’re also a very frequent poster on /memes, so you’re gone live with me interacting with the posts and that’s that.
You’re learning why being a troll can be fun. You’re welcome brother.
I’m not trolling though, I’m just participating in the community, which is my right. 🤷♂️
That’s not how any of this works.
Seems like a strong overreaction, any additional context to share?
Found the context: https://lemmy.world/comment/23272922
The contract you were provided is not the full context, but just their version of what happened.
Terribly sorry, I can’t help with this.
How often will you ever fight a dragon? Once, maybe?
Fuck folding sheets because someone else wants it done, 3 times a week for the next 40 years.
Not even close to being the same.
3 times a week… you’re showing your relationship issues a bit there by not knowing how basic human chores work.
What’s the correct amount of sheets to fold a week?
About a much as a banana costs.
You sure are judgy in this comment section
It does come across a bit “how much could a banana cost” to anyone who’s actually doing washing in a relationship.
Considering how much we sweat in our sleep and whatever else people do on their sheets. 3 times per week isn’t really that extreme. Not that I change my sheets that often, but I really probably should.
I’m willing to bet it’s pretty far off the norm, I’m sure there are people who do but even the most cleanliness obsessed person I know isn’t changing them that often.
Sweating that much in your sleep is not as common as you think.
I’ve met few people who do sweat so much if they are heavy drinkers at night though. I have an ex that started drinking heavy when his best friend died and you could see the sweat stains in the morning. Never used to be like that before he started drinking. Thankfully he was raised to do his own laundry like any capable adult should. Didn’t save the mattress though.
Even medically with dust allergies they perscribe to change once a week. Weirdly they print it out too to hand it to you like it’s a guide.
And I’ll take that over being an entitled asshole towards their wife any time.
Next!
Who is washing sheets 3 times a week? I can see once a week, but more than that is too much.
I mean, if I had to fight a dragon, it definitely wouldn’t happen more than once
I would also fold clothes and wash dishes for her.
For you.
For both of you.
It’s not ‘for her’
She’s not your mommy manager.
I beg to differ. I would not fold clothes for me. All of my clothes are in a storage tub unfolded. I’d do it for someone I care about though. I like the sound of mommy manager.
Flight of the Conchords had a song about it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJVbBXf2wlY
He later wrote that song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRJZfwDgNTM
This guy won an Oscar BTW.
That’s great they did a callback to it. I’ve seen some of their stuff but not their sitcom or anything.
I like that he won the oscar for a muppet song
