Some months ago a podcast was published titled “Did Women Ruin the Workplace?” where two conservative women discuss whether the influence of women is corrupting white collar working environments, mostly arguing that it is. An edited transcript was later published as a New York Times column.
This piece was shortly afterwards renamed to “Did Liberal Feminism Ruin the Workplace” to damage control as it proved excessively controversial.
Of course, right wingers did not appreciate their contribution and found them to be part of the problem they discuss.
I’m a lifelong progressive/liberal, so don’t assume anything about my personality from this politically incorrect comment.
There is a large number of women who actively dislike or disrespect men as a general rule.
There is a certain segment of feminism that isn’t about equal rights and equal consideration, but instead feel superior and expect to be treated as such. Men are means to ends.
These women are never wrong, and are allergic to personal responsibility. Guaranteed some man was the reason for all their woes.
Some will actually destroy a man’s career, family, and life if they feel slighted by that man. They also file false allegations to do so. Many men have been screwed over by angry or jealous women. We’ve seen it play out both in the news and in our personal lives.
Many women are wonderful people with good attitudes who take responsibility for themselves and are helpful and kind to others. But it’s very difficult to figure out which one is which until you commit significant effort in a relationship, whether business or personal.
For the men out there, are you willing to risk your career and livelihood by being alone in a room with a woman at work (especially if you are a manager}?
Are you going to risk a visit from HR because you complimented a female peer in the office and she got “the ick”, or perhaps because some other woman perceives favoritism?
Nah, man, don’t let that stuff bother you. Take statistics like fake sexual assault accusiations. They are less common than murder. This stuff is the least of your worries.
On a controversial note, I am convinced the powerful men who own the media drum up fake accusiations so hard because they shield their sex pest friends, and themselves. And because they enjoy having a servile class of people (women) they can freely abuse sexually and economically.
Well perhaps you are correct, perhaps not. I think statistics might not match. I can speak for my own experiences.
First wife stole 100k, second accused me of abuse to seek full custody of our son and also break the prenup protecting a small amount of money I inherited before we met.
Both were abusive, but courts don’t care if women abuse.
In both cases, the courts didn’t really care that she lied or literally committed a crime. In fact, they compelled me to pay for her lawyer, apparently common practice.
Then there are a few women I knew who were very vocal about the evils of men in general and superiority of women. One was even a friend for a long time, surprisingly.
I agree that anecdotal evidence is not proof on a larger scale. Still, other men’s described experiences match my own. Abuse statistics also contradict the public narrative.
I am sorry for your situation.
But thinking like this doesn’t help. Men still commit the majority of white collar crime.
Abuse statistics don’t contradict the “public narrative”. Most abuse is committed by men, especially the very harmful stuff. Men are also more likely to get custody. I don’t trust that courts don’t care if women abuse.
Are you kidding? Men are least likely to get custody. Abuse is 50/50. Here are the receipts. Took me 10 seconds with duckduckgo.
Please don’t spread misinformation. Check your assumptions before stating them as fact.
12 child custody statistics
I am not going delve very deep into this because it is not an area of my expertise but the little I know is how complex this issue is.
That is specifically psychological aggression but the “one in three women” part links to another site that states that 36% of women vs 28% of men have experienced physical violence and stalking from an intimate partner. But that statistic is already more complex because much violence happens in self defense and a lot of violence from intimate partners is conflated with violence by family members.
That’s because fathers are less likely to sue for custody. And there are many special cases where father’s are more likely to get custody.
I am out.
Kudos for pointing out the complexity of the situation. Also, many cases of physical abuse are both partners. Presumably on is responding to the other.
I am suspicious of the idea that men are less likely to seek custody. Is that for “sole custody” or 50% custody?
Speaking for myself, I fought hard for 50%, as I didn’t want to deprive my son of his mother, but there are points I considered seeking full custody and did not pursue because I knew how infrequently men get any custody.
I bet other men do the same.