• Brave Little Hitachi Wand@feddit.uk
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    4 hours ago

    That’s because we live in a complex world where multiple things can be true. Trauma can limit our ability to process this, in my experience. The old man was in the wrong, and he was a victim of violence. I’m not trying to fight you, I just think you might have limited objectivity because of your personal experiences.

    When you say “it’s really fucked up that you’re not getting this”, you might be noticing the disconnect between your interpretation of events and the way people who aren’t viewing the situation through a lens of trauma might see it.

    I’m sorry if it sounds like I’m using your history against you, those are just the cards I see on the table and just one possible interpretation.

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      The old man was in the wrong, and he was a victim of violence.

      The old man was in the wrong and didn’t learn shit. He was not a victim. He made an unacceptable choice.

      When your kids are the ones being touched, I hope you tell them the truth: that you personally encouraged their abusers.

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          My parents hit me before I could think. Instead of stopping them, you’re defending their mindset.

          Fuck you. Children are people.

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            3 hours ago

            So are old people. Everyone’s people. The golden rule covers this. Are you going to condone violence just because violence was done to you?

            Edit: I feel foolish for assuming good faith in retrospect. How utterly sad whether they are serious or trolling.

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              The golden rule covers this.

              Put yourself in the girl’s shoes. I would rather not be touched by random strangers. I hate the fact that stupid, selfish internet people have normalized my lack of autonomy. I hate you for being a coward while feigning moral superiority.

              Are you going to condone violence just because violence was done to you?

              Literally yes, it’s called defense. Would you let yourself be killed instead of fighting back? The old man was the aggressor. It would be wrong to let him act that way with no consequences. I care more about victims than their abusers, personally. If you choose not to fight at all, you’re choosing to help the abusers.