The interesting pattern I have seen with this type of parent, is that they often behave more like a cruel older sibling, bullying their child. They have a teenager’s mentality and often a child’s fear of accountability.
The unfortunate children that have to struggle with this kind of “support structure” grow up to be hyper independent, to the point that it becomes a socialization problem, or become a wreck just like their parent.
It always baffled me how people could become their child’s first bully. Like, how are you going to bring someone into existence itself just to fuckin torture them?
My parents were like this, especially my mom and the outcome you described is pretty accurate. I’m iny 30s and still working on unfucking myself.
One of my core memories is when I had a panic attack going up a spiral stairwell in a tall building we visited on vacation and after getting back down I asked that they not tell people about it because it was embarrassing. Literally the next stop was another similar building so I stayed out of it and a few minutes later I hear my mom BELLOWING from the top to everyone that was up there with her about what happened. Couldn’t even make it 2 hours …
The interesting pattern I have seen with this type of parent, is that they often behave more like a cruel older sibling, bullying their child. They have a teenager’s mentality and often a child’s fear of accountability.
The unfortunate children that have to struggle with this kind of “support structure” grow up to be hyper independent, to the point that it becomes a socialization problem, or become a wreck just like their parent.
It always baffled me how people could become their child’s first bully. Like, how are you going to bring someone into existence itself just to fuckin torture them?
My parents were like this, especially my mom and the outcome you described is pretty accurate. I’m iny 30s and still working on unfucking myself.
One of my core memories is when I had a panic attack going up a spiral stairwell in a tall building we visited on vacation and after getting back down I asked that they not tell people about it because it was embarrassing. Literally the next stop was another similar building so I stayed out of it and a few minutes later I hear my mom BELLOWING from the top to everyone that was up there with her about what happened. Couldn’t even make it 2 hours …