This is entirely my own experience and may be coincidental (I can’t be arsed to search to see if this is even a thing) but, listening to “Dr Drew” on love line in the 90’s (late night radio), this stuck with me. He was talking about how often women who talk in infantile voices were often abused in their youth. The age/development period in which they were abused can lock them in to a part of that mindset.
Two women I have dated, did this on occasion. They would just drop into a juvenile voice when dealing with something that involved high emotion. In both cases, they confirmed that they had been subjected to physical in one case, and sexual abuse in the other. Re-enforced that one-off conversation I heard when I was little. Yes, the voice annoys me but had I not heard that one-off line from Dr. Drew, I would have probably not had the same level of empathy. The first time I brought up the Dr. Drew conversation, it caused her to break down in front of me.
Needless to say, it may not be something that they can control?
I mean a lot of people just have their voices become higher pitched when they are upset or hysterical it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve been traumatized. Your throat literally contracts haha
the few women I have dated who weren’t into it, were European. As in raised outside of North American culture. Europeans seem to actually take pride in being adults, which North Americans seem to hate being. I don’t get it at all.
Now that I’m older it’s downright creepy to with a 35+ adult woman who just whips out a baby voice and calls me daddy and thinks she is ‘sexy’ for doing so. ugh.
American here. Can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’ve always seen adulthood as the culmination of my loss of freedom and the beginning stages of the rest of my life as a laboring drone. I didn’t actually enjoy much of the first decade of adulthood because I spent the whole time surviving a system I simply am not built for. Now that I’ve made it through those harder bits, my body’s starting to wear on me, and I’m not really able to appreciate life like I could have under more accommodating circumstances. It’s hard not to hate adulthood sometimes. The pieces of me that are still childish are kinda the few remaining parts of me that can still experience joy, barring the moments where others make me feel pathetic for still being childish as an adult.
That said, I agree that the baby voice and daddy stuff just…doesn’t do it for me. I try not to yuck yums, and I know the world of sex is as complicated and diverse as the humans who engage in it, so I’ll just say it’s not for me and leave it at that.
i wish i could find a girl who didn’t want to be infantilized . it’s shockingly difficult.
I don’t understand the appeal of it. it’s weird af and it actively turns me off.
This is entirely my own experience and may be coincidental (I can’t be arsed to search to see if this is even a thing) but, listening to “Dr Drew” on love line in the 90’s (late night radio), this stuck with me. He was talking about how often women who talk in infantile voices were often abused in their youth. The age/development period in which they were abused can lock them in to a part of that mindset.
Two women I have dated, did this on occasion. They would just drop into a juvenile voice when dealing with something that involved high emotion. In both cases, they confirmed that they had been subjected to physical in one case, and sexual abuse in the other. Re-enforced that one-off conversation I heard when I was little. Yes, the voice annoys me but had I not heard that one-off line from Dr. Drew, I would have probably not had the same level of empathy. The first time I brought up the Dr. Drew conversation, it caused her to break down in front of me.
Needless to say, it may not be something that they can control?
I mean a lot of people just have their voices become higher pitched when they are upset or hysterical it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve been traumatized. Your throat literally contracts haha
There’s a huge difference between infantilization and merely speaking in a high voice.
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the few women I have dated who weren’t into it, were European. As in raised outside of North American culture. Europeans seem to actually take pride in being adults, which North Americans seem to hate being. I don’t get it at all.
Now that I’m older it’s downright creepy to with a 35+ adult woman who just whips out a baby voice and calls me daddy and thinks she is ‘sexy’ for doing so. ugh.
Nah as a European it’s a thing here too, but would probably say it’s more common here in the UK than on the continent.
American here. Can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’ve always seen adulthood as the culmination of my loss of freedom and the beginning stages of the rest of my life as a laboring drone. I didn’t actually enjoy much of the first decade of adulthood because I spent the whole time surviving a system I simply am not built for. Now that I’ve made it through those harder bits, my body’s starting to wear on me, and I’m not really able to appreciate life like I could have under more accommodating circumstances. It’s hard not to hate adulthood sometimes. The pieces of me that are still childish are kinda the few remaining parts of me that can still experience joy, barring the moments where others make me feel pathetic for still being childish as an adult.
That said, I agree that the baby voice and daddy stuff just…doesn’t do it for me. I try not to yuck yums, and I know the world of sex is as complicated and diverse as the humans who engage in it, so I’ll just say it’s not for me and leave it at that.