• Zephorah@discuss.online
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    10 hours ago

    It swings around 180 in other other odd ways. About 100 years ago, when I went through my dating period, I kept finding myself across tables from men who thought if I didn’t do this while they were talking, then I wasn’t attending to them or their words.

    Ditto, on eyes turning inward to focus on and visualize what they were talking about, an aspect of full attention. Apparently, doing that meant I was tuning them out and letting my mind wander to other things. They “could tell”.

    Needless to say, I encountered many a one date wonder who never moved past that initial interview.

    Blinking, internal imagery, and not staring are pieces of standard, WNL attentive conversation.