• outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    5 days ago

    Im not coherent over voice, cant talk whioe looking at my calendar but theres an expectation of continuous exchange, no time to think about words, interrupting everything else im doing so im gonna resent you substantially. Plus a lot of people use it for deniable gaslighting bullshit where they can just imagine a conversation that happened and act on that-and i will not talk to those people in a volatile mefium without recording and transcription, which they never agree to, and it seems offensive to bring up.

    Better to just stick to text unless you need privacy-which in cheap buildings with thin walls and a cartiers that record and analyze everything; a phone call hasnt been for about a century. My biggest phone phrase is ‘let me look into that and get back to you’.

    I find if someone cant communicate over text, they just can’t communicate.

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      4 days ago

      Sometimes you need back and forth which over email can take days. You can’t talk while looking at your calendar? Guess what, you say “give me 30 seconds to open my calendar”. Or 60. However much you need. People gaslight or bullshit? You follow up the call with an email “as we discussed on the phone, x y and z, and we agreed not to do a b nor c”. If someone can’t communicate over phone, they just can’t communicate.

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        4 days ago

        Cool. I can text that too. I can do it without saying it to the 17 adjacent apartments or nearby cubicles.

        “as we discussed on the phone…”

        To which they say

        “What the fuck?”

        Or

        “new phone who dis?”

        It’s not helpful

        pithy bitchy ‘no u’ because you’re insecure as fuck

        Wow that explains a lot about why youre like this. Call me if you want to actually communicate, i guess.