• naticus@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Jokes don’t necessarily make you an asshole, even with sensitive topics, it’s about good faith in it being light-hearted. Jokes bridge the gap in talking about topics that are uncomfortable normally.

    For example, I have a good friend who is disabled who I game with. My friend group calls him Cripple, and I’ll also give him a hard time about by mentioning things about his specific handicap and he’ll call me an ableist fuck, but he knows it’s not being said in a mean way.

    What’s worse to him? Being treated different just because he’s handicapped. He’d rather have that banter and feel like part of the group, not isolated.

    • Randomgal@lemmy.ca
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      4 days ago

      No, they do. They do. If you know you’re in an inappropriate setting and still do the joke, joke’s on you. It would be exactly the same if it was the other way around.

      Don’t joke with things people care about if you’re not willing to come off as an asshole. You’re not doing a Netflix special. You don’t have ‘jesters’ privilege’ if no one sees you as a jester, but as a coworker.