That’s like several months of food. Or years worth of video games. That’s so expensive. Even if I was a big fan of the sport, I wouldn’t be able to justify spending that.

They should also be forced to pay a year’s salary to everyone who applied to a ghost job. (That’s a job that’s not real and they have no intention of filling)

Unemployment lasts a limited time, and this doesn’t address the problems with hiring companies dragging their feet or having ghost jobs.

I mean, ruff is an opnionated code formatter. I don’t always agree with it but I’m very happy I can shut down other people whining with “that’s just how ruff does it”.

Most people don’t give a shit about anything abstract or remote. There’s tons of users still on Twitter, Instagram, etc.

This is true but you have to remember that management is stupid. Stupid and cruel, but mostly stupid.

This is part of why scumbags want to kill work from home.

I can finish a task in an hour and fuck off. Harder to do in an office.

They could also not be fucking counter productive management, and I’d keep working on stuff. But they’d rather have a bunch of pRoCeSs and nonsense.

With dial up, it felt like it was working. It was trying its best.

Now it feels like it’s bogged down with ads and tracking and bots.

the librarian isn’t picking the books for you dude. you can also go to other libraries

You can go to other platforms, so I’m not sure what this is a rebuttal of.

and them thinking I’m a huge asshole

I mean… if you behave in person like you do here, you might be coming off as not very fun

Saying “the apps don’t match people” and “the apps provide a platform [for matching]” is I guess technically true but disingenuous. You could say, like, libraries don’t give you books. You have to go and check it out yourself. Yeah, kind of, but people go there with a purpose the platform is (nominally) intended to fulfill.

your success on the app is a product of your attractiveness

I don’t know if that’s really true. I’m middling attractive and had a lot of success. There are a lot of factors.

I don’t think the sweeping generalizations about people are really helpful. Is this making you happy? Are you doing okay in your dating life?

I feel like we’ve had this conversation before.

Moving to a new city without a financial plan is a dubious idea, yeah. Especially since the current economic situation is Bad.

I’m not buying into techno evangelism. I’m saying that given a choice between a good faith effort to match users with compatible dates, and something else that will make money, they will almost always choose to make money. You can have success on the apps, but they’re not trying to get that success rate very high.

Furthermore, many problems people face in dating are present with or without apps. The behavioral and emotional provlems you allude to, I expect.

The dating apps are definitely not optimized for user dating success.

That said, a lot of people self sabotage in their dating life. The apps aren’t going to put in a lot of effort to stop you from doing that.

NYC isn’t cheap but sometimes you get what you pay for. But yeah, $2000/mo rent is probably eye popping for a lot of people. You save a lot by not having a car, though. Or roommates can also cut the cost.

There’s this consistent line through modern history: right wing ideas are bad. It keeps happening. Right wing politicians have power, they do stuff, and it goes badly for most people. And then, somehow, few people learn, not enough decide “hurting the outgroup isn’t worth my own suffering”, and they get elected again.

$4500 was in my head because that was the projected mortgage+taxes+fees for a 2BR apartment in brooklyn I saw the other day.

There are some apartments in NYC that are that expensive to rent. Average here is $3,650, but that’s skewed by a lot of stupid expensive places. Median is a little lower.

Other parts of the country can be much cheaper, but sometimes you get what you pay for.

You are also missing private retirement funds

Good call.

(and if car dependent 100/month seems very low for transit costs)

That’s a good point. I rely on mass transit, which is much cheaper.

I believe that really depends on where you live. Also did you mean net or gross?

Some napkin math I did now, if your gross is 100k…

After tax 75k

• housing 2500
• food: 250
• Internet 100
• phone: 40
• health: 200
• transit: 100
• utilities: 200

Edit: I fucked up and did 4500 for housing not 2500. Cheaper housing gives a lot more room!

That leaves you with like $860/mo for fun or any other thing.

Of course that’s a lot of assumptions that can change it. But I’d say 200k gross is the start of “don’t have to think too hard about money”

I used to have a stupidly large beard. One time a pack of girls was walking by in Manhattan, dressed like they were going to a club or something. After we passed each other, one of them said something like “I want a man with a big ol beard like that! Rwar!”

I choose to believe it was about me and that made me happy.

On the other hand, one time I was in an elevator and it stopped on a lower floor before the lobby. Door opened and a woman looked at me and the mega beard. She turned around and took the stairs.

Are you mad about parents teaching their children their values?

Both