• SpongyAneurysm@feddit.org
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    2 days ago

    What you gotta ask yourself though: If it is really, that everything just sucks so bad, then why isn’t everybody depressed.

    I mean, I don’t even disagree. Everything indeed does suck so bad. But there’s a surprising number of people, that seem to cope with that fact way better than I do.

    Turns out, I actually do have depression. If you suspect, that you do too: seek help. It won’t change that everything sucks so bad. But I already learned to cope a little better, and I hope you can, too.

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      1 day ago

      There is a surprising number of people too dumb to see just how profoundly everything sucks and hence is going to suck even more

      Then there is a number of people who have the capability to see but actively prevent themselves from it lest it breaks them

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      2 days ago

      Two things can be true. And your depression can be because everything actually sucks. Instead of being because you simply believe it sucks.

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        5 hours ago

        Like I said, I don’t disagree with things sucking in general.

        Perception is very important, though.
        It would be possible to be perfectly depressed, even if things did not, in fact, suck.
        But of course, it’s a lot easier to be depressed and to believe, that everything sucks, if that is actually reflected in reality.

        A big part of combatting depression, is to focus your perception on things, that don’t suck and changing the ones that can be changed, to suck less; instead of making yourself sick by fussing about the things you cannot change anyway.

        I struggle with that every day.

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      2 days ago

      Seeking help for depression is what lead me to a therapist. She helped me make the changes in my life circumstances that I needed to make my life suck significantly less. I am no longer chronically depressed.

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          I was letting some people take advantage of my strong work ethic and was therefore overextending myself. I needed encouragement to escape a bad living situation and move out to another city nearby. I was confused with about my sexual orientation following a series of advances from a gay person that didn’t seem entirely unwanted at the time. I also needed encouragement to speak to my doctor about some embarrassing health issues which turned out to be easily treatable.

          I’m still being actively treated for anxiety and a panic disorder ancillary to PTSD following my volunteer work in the aftermath of hurricane Helene.

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            4 hours ago

            That really sounds like you worked out some important things. I can totally understand how those issues can wear you down, especially if you can’t bring yourself to resolve them. Glad you found someone who could help you deal with them. And I hope you can make progress on the rest of your issues as well.

            Honestly, you sound like a good person, who deserves to be happier, just from that glimpse, I’ve read. All the best!

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        7 hours ago

        That explanation falls a bit short. While it surely explains a lot of people, it doesn’t apply to everybody. There are definitely also people (some of whom I know personally) who are neither stupid & self-centered nor depressed.

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        10 hours ago

        I think, at least for Americans, they are absolutely brainwashed. They can’t imagine a different world and think this is the Pinnacle of human existence. Then it turns out they are so EVIL they don’t really care and ignore school children getting killed by guns and systematically raped by elites.