• Zensate@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    It wasn’t a bad habit dude, it was just your natural way of regulating your nervous system

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      9 hours ago

      I hear that, but I deserve for my nervous system to be regulated, too. Just because clicking a pen calms someone down doesn’t mean they should do it at the expense of everyone else’s focus in an office setting, and the same goes for all stims. Situational awareness isn’t something to discourage

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        9 hours ago

        True, accomodations that fit everyone must be made, but they shouldn’t consider a natural reaction to being neurodivergent a “bad habit to quit”.

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        9 hours ago

        But does it, in the end, take less effort than constantly fighting yourself?

        Life isn’t a choice between easy and hard, it’s mostly a choice between hard now or way harder later.

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          8 hours ago

          It becomes less problematic over time. Without learning how to mask or developing coping skills, life will just be harder in the long run. My career would certainly be less successful if I did not develop coping skills. Burnout can be avoided by finding healthy outlets and enforcing personal time to relax and recover.

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            4 hours ago

            For me it’s been the opposite, the less I mask the more I actually end up with people and in environments where I am accepted and cherished for the person I am, not who I force myself to be to fit in. Trying to do that nearly killed me.