• WoodScientist@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    Part of life is learning to prepare for the unexpected. A lot of people are frequently late through a combination of circumstances and their own poor preparation. Random events will happen. You will hit an unpredictable traffic snarl. If you plan your schedule with zero margin, then you are failing to plan properly.

    This is honestly a very important lesson for kids to learn. If they have a traffic ticket, and they get a court summons, they damn well better be in court, prepared, at the appropriate hour. The judge isn’t going to want to hear your excuse why you’re late. Unless you’re in the hospital, the judge is going to issue a warrant for your arrest. You can shout this is unfair til you’re red in the face, but there are simply times in life where not being on time has very real consequences.

    A similar harshness exists for job interviews. If you’re late, forget it. It’s simply your responsibility to plan for the unexpected.

    Sure, sometimes people are late purely due to circumstances. Sometimes you’re subject to large unpredictable delays. If a family member needs to be rushed to the hospital, that’s hours you’re going to lose with no way to predict it.

    But 99% of the time when people are late, they’re late due to the ordinary everyday hurdles that should simply be planned for. Traffic is not a valid excuse for showing up 10 minutes late. For something important, you should just have a margin that large built into your schedule. Shit happens. And at some point, failing to plan for random but completely expected delays is your fault, not the fault of circumstance.

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      17 hours ago

      Everything you are saying in this thread is the exact opposite of what child care experts say. It’s like you went and thought “hmm all these scientists are wrong, so I’ll say the exact opposite”.

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            18 hours ago

            Lazy entitled thinking. Blame capitalism and imperialism for every problem. Free yourself from all thought and responsibility.

            Sorry, if you’re going to criticize, offer a solution. Because what you’re doing currently is demanding that teachers tear down capitalism.

            It’s not teacher’s responsibility to tear down capitalism. If that’s the problem you diagnose, then it has zero relevance to discussion of classroom management strategies.

            Because when you say to tell a teacher, “this problem will go away if we just completely reorganize society top to bottom,” you are making clear that you don’t give a shit about teachers.

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              18 hours ago

              Look, there is a difference between doing your best in a difficult situation and identifying so much with a system thaf you feel the need to defend it.

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                  17 hours ago

                  Fair enough.

                  You know I think it is okay to acknowledge that there are problems that we don’t necessarily know how to fix. It’s not perfect and these things can be difficult to sit with, but I’d personally rather that than only acknowledge problems where I know a solution.