If it’s a short interaction, I’d rather just exchange meaningless pleasantries to indicate to them I’m a normal person and we can both go about our days. I don’t necessarily want to talk to them at all, but saying, “hey how’s it going” “fine, how are you” takes no effort and lets both parties quickly evaluate the mental and emotional state of the other. It’s social lubricant, it’s more hygenic than shaking strangers’ hands and quicker than telling them your life story. Plus if it’s someone doing their job, I’m not going to try to start a substantive conversation with them, that might just distract them and cause them to make a mistake.
🤣🤣🤣 yeah ok, lololol. If you can’t see the benefit in the person in charge of all the money knowing who they’re dealing with, you’ll never grasp the benefit of small talk. Have a good day!
If you think I think a cashier is going to scam me because I didn’t talk to them then you completely misunderstood what I was talking about, just like I predicted.
What “benefit” does “someone in charge of all the money” being able to “evaluate your mental and emotional state” give you? And how would you expect me to take such a line of reasoning other than you having a paranoia about someone scamming you?
I was describing ways in which being nice to strangers by default can benefit me, because you couldn’t understand it. You obviously still don’t. How about this one: Treat others like you want to be treated. When I’ve done a customer-facing service job in the past, I liked it when the customers recognized my existence and were kind to me. So that’s what I do for them. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ Sue me.
When did I “make a big deal about hating small talk”? All I said was I don’t care what is said, which is the definition of small talk. Don’t tell me you’ve been responding to the wrong person this whole time 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
That’s just Lemmy, it won’t expand past that comment for me, happens a lot on here (to me at least). I’m too tech-illiterate to figure it out. You gotta admit tho, that sentence I was talking about was craaaaazy lol
I said I didn’t necessarily want to talk to them, as in I didn’t walk into the grocery store to have a conversation with the cashier, I walked in to buy groceries. I’ve found engaging in a modicum of unimportant chitchat facilitates this process. I have no feelings positive or negative towards small talk, it’s simply a tool for navigating society.
Speaking of unclear thoughts though, I have absolutely no clue what that derailed train crash of a first sentence is supposed to mean.
It puts them at ease so they can do their job accurately and efficiently. Maybe there’s a bag fee and I don’t have my reusable bags and they say don’t worry about it. Maybe they make sure to bag my groceries without putting a gallon of milk on top of a loaf of bread. Maybe it’s a restaurant I get food at periodically and they remember me being nice to them and they throw me a coupon or a free dessert. Maybe they were having a shitty day and just needed someone to look them in the eyes and see that they existed and making them feel better makes me feel better. Maybe they’re really Morgan Freeman God in disguise and they’re going to make me a deity for a day. I don’t know man, it’s just fucking nice. I don’t need another reason.
Do you really ignore blue collar workers who are doing a job for you and just refuse to speak to them for no reason?
I never said you said not to, LOL
That’s the question I answered, it’s in the very first sentence of the comment I responded to.
If it’s a short interaction, I’d rather just exchange meaningless pleasantries to indicate to them I’m a normal person and we can both go about our days. I don’t necessarily want to talk to them at all, but saying, “hey how’s it going” “fine, how are you” takes no effort and lets both parties quickly evaluate the mental and emotional state of the other. It’s social lubricant, it’s more hygenic than shaking strangers’ hands and quicker than telling them your life story. Plus if it’s someone doing their job, I’m not going to try to start a substantive conversation with them, that might just distract them and cause them to make a mistake.
You don’t need to talk to them at all. A cashier does not need to “evaluate your mental and emotional state.” If you don’t want to, don’t do it.
🤣🤣🤣 yeah ok, lololol. If you can’t see the benefit in the person in charge of all the money knowing who they’re dealing with, you’ll never grasp the benefit of small talk. Have a good day!
If you think a cashier is going to scam you because you don’t talk to them then I think you have some serious trust issues.
If you think I think a cashier is going to scam me because I didn’t talk to them then you completely misunderstood what I was talking about, just like I predicted.
What “benefit” does “someone in charge of all the money” being able to “evaluate your mental and emotional state” give you? And how would you expect me to take such a line of reasoning other than you having a paranoia about someone scamming you?
I was describing ways in which being nice to strangers by default can benefit me, because you couldn’t understand it. You obviously still don’t. How about this one: Treat others like you want to be treated. When I’ve done a customer-facing service job in the past, I liked it when the customers recognized my existence and were kind to me. So that’s what I do for them. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ Sue me.
When did I “make a big deal about hating small talk”? All I said was I don’t care what is said, which is the definition of small talk. Don’t tell me you’ve been responding to the wrong person this whole time 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
That’s just Lemmy, it won’t expand past that comment for me, happens a lot on here (to me at least). I’m too tech-illiterate to figure it out. You gotta admit tho, that sentence I was talking about was craaaaazy lol
I said I didn’t necessarily want to talk to them, as in I didn’t walk into the grocery store to have a conversation with the cashier, I walked in to buy groceries. I’ve found engaging in a modicum of unimportant chitchat facilitates this process. I have no feelings positive or negative towards small talk, it’s simply a tool for navigating society.
Speaking of unclear thoughts though, I have absolutely no clue what that derailed train crash of a first sentence is supposed to mean.
It puts them at ease so they can do their job accurately and efficiently. Maybe there’s a bag fee and I don’t have my reusable bags and they say don’t worry about it. Maybe they make sure to bag my groceries without putting a gallon of milk on top of a loaf of bread. Maybe it’s a restaurant I get food at periodically and they remember me being nice to them and they throw me a coupon or a free dessert. Maybe they were having a shitty day and just needed someone to look them in the eyes and see that they existed and making them feel better makes me feel better. Maybe they’re really Morgan Freeman God in disguise and they’re going to make me a deity for a day. I don’t know man, it’s just fucking nice. I don’t need another reason.
Do you really ignore blue collar workers who are doing a job for you and just refuse to speak to them for no reason?