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      As Gen-X, I can confirm that 30 is far more traumatic than 40.

      I totally agree.

      When turning 40, I had much to much going on (family stuff really taking up speed, buying own flat,…) that I didn’t give a shit.

      30 on the other hand, with me still without a long-term partnership and just continuing living my old student bachelor’s life, felt like a huge thing, triggering profound eleventh-hour-panic.

      I think that the dates have shifted as typical family foundation has moved from the late teens or early twenties to around 30.
      This also means that 50 might be the new 40 (A fact that I can confirm by now), marking a new phase in life as 40 maybe did in former times.

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        I remember seeing a research thing showing that mid to late 20s was the average time people started to get married. But keep in mind, that’s average. And as soon as you’re any flavor of queer or there’s conflict near you (like war) throw those numbers out the window.

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          Yes, especially wars also tend to seriously disturb family planning.

          My grandparents all were around 30 on my fathers side and even older on my mothers side when they became parents.
          Reason for that: WWII happened…

          Before and after the wars, numbers were significantly different. My mother was nineteen when I was born in the mid 70s. But that also was around the time when that started to change in our country, triggered by the more widespread availability of contraceptives and an increase of women’s education level.

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        Found a strange, single, long hair growing off my chin the other day. I’m a woman in my mid-30s with no tendencies toward facial hair whatsoever.

        It reminded me of when I was working in a nursing home, and such hairs would just appear, already over an inch long, on patients’ faces. It was as if they sprouted overnight.

        It was a disturbing moment to find one on myself. But hey, it was still my natural color and the length made it easy to pluck. So, can’t complain. Yet.

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          I’ve noticed there’s a thing where our brains filter out fine details, especially in mirrors. When I have a lot of time to pluck and want to try to get everything, you can sway left-right in the mirror to try to add a kind of dither, visually, and that helps see stuff you wouldn’t, otherwise. However, knowing this is terrifying because then you start seeing all kinds of stuff that other people probably see that you normally don’t and now I wanna die. So, use this knowledge with caution.

          That’s my theory for old people with sudden face hair. Not that it grows, but it’s hard to see.

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          That’s just the bloating in your stomach.
          When you turn 30, you develop this incredibly urge to start eating lots of beans, commonly marking the transition to being an old man with the obligatory old man habits.

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              As someone living in a country with an increasing overaging problem (current birthrate per woman: 1,35 children…), I see this happening in realtime, and I can tell you it is really not a good thing.