You can leave politely, you just make up an excuse, it’s total normal human interaction. Even just “hey look I’m really sorry but I really gotta go, we can chat later!” is totally polite.
Plus, statements like these are like horoscopes: vague enough that they fit your opinions. But the wish either assumes people think like you do (but then why would you need to do this?) or that you’re special enough to be rude unilaterally. Because people with opinions you don’t agree with would just use the same tactic toward you. E.g. some conservative saying “I don’t care” and leaving every time people try to talk about the importance of not being racist.
well you wouldn’t use that at a party, you’d say “I need to get another drink” or something, disappear for a bit, then “happen” to join another group on the way back
Online communication doesn’t have start and end points like it does in person, so people who socialize more online than in person might struggle with that part of social interaction than others.
Its sort of a double edged sword though, I’m on the other side where I struggle with online communication specifically because of the lack of break points. I find it overwhelming and time consuming compared to talking face to face.
It depends on the group of people, might be a generational thing, but it seems the people around me expect a daily flood of messages and to be replied back to within 15 minutes of whenever they decide to reach out. It feels like being an on-call therapist sort of, at least for me.
ehh, I think you can set your own expectations with messages. I have friends I know will get back to me quickly, and others that always take ages to respond, you just get used to them
You can leave politely, you just make up an excuse, it’s total normal human interaction. Even just “hey look I’m really sorry but I really gotta go, we can chat later!” is totally polite.
Where are people’s social skills!
Plus, statements like these are like horoscopes: vague enough that they fit your opinions. But the wish either assumes people think like you do (but then why would you need to do this?) or that you’re special enough to be rude unilaterally. Because people with opinions you don’t agree with would just use the same tactic toward you. E.g. some conservative saying “I don’t care” and leaving every time people try to talk about the importance of not being racist.
well said
Turns around and starts new conversation with people at the party.
well you wouldn’t use that at a party, you’d say “I need to get another drink” or something, disappear for a bit, then “happen” to join another group on the way back
Online communication doesn’t have start and end points like it does in person, so people who socialize more online than in person might struggle with that part of social interaction than others.
Its sort of a double edged sword though, I’m on the other side where I struggle with online communication specifically because of the lack of break points. I find it overwhelming and time consuming compared to talking face to face.
but the break points in online communication are more frequent, longer, and often have no requirement to reply
It depends on the group of people, might be a generational thing, but it seems the people around me expect a daily flood of messages and to be replied back to within 15 minutes of whenever they decide to reach out. It feels like being an on-call therapist sort of, at least for me.
ehh, I think you can set your own expectations with messages. I have friends I know will get back to me quickly, and others that always take ages to respond, you just get used to them