I disagree about the vows. Really big, expensive weddings suck. But, the ceremony that isn’t individualized should be minimized as much as possible.
If you’re going to make a vow that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the reason shouldn’t be “it’s just how things are done”. It should be why you’re making such a momentous decision about decades of your life. If there’s generic paperwork to be done after that, then do it. But, don’t make the generic paperwork the focus of the ceremony.
I disagree about the vows. Really big, expensive weddings suck. But, the ceremony that isn’t individualized should be minimized as much as possible.
If you’re going to make a vow that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the reason shouldn’t be “it’s just how things are done”. It should be why you’re making such a momentous decision about decades of your life. If there’s generic paperwork to be done after that, then do it. But, don’t make the generic paperwork the focus of the ceremony.