I’m not really good at dating in person, or really anything in person but being openly polyam and just flirting with people openly has seemed to go fine. It’s not been perfect for sure but being upfront about what I want and what I’m offering has mostly worked.

I hate to say it, but you need to talk to the people you’re interested in. There’s a variety of ways to do this. You could ask one on a date, and then mention polyamory when having the “what are you looking for” conversation. Or you could bring up polyamory casually and see how they feel about it, outside of a “dating you” context.

But, at the end of the day, you have to do the hard work of talking about your interests, feelings, and desires if you want to establish and maintain intimacy with someone. If I were friends with someone, I might choose the “bring poly stuff up” tactic to get a vibe check before proceeding. If these are more strangers, then I’d ask if they wanted to grab lunch or coffee sometime and use that to break the ice.

Edit: you can use Feeld, too, if you want. I think it has a larger proportion of poly folks than any other app I’m aware of. I met one of my partners there.

Following because I’m in a similar situation. I also don’t want to use dating apps so I mostly only want to go out with people I meet in person 😅